Table Tennis has played a huge part in my life and in many ways I owe my success to the sport
It's an inevitable part of the game "losing" is something which is unavoidable!
I went to the Greater London Championships a week ago and witnessed hundreds of players competing, all aiming/trying to win. I spoke to many players and it was clear that most who lost blamed themselves for not having played well. Occasionally this is true we all have poor days but in most cases we are not truthful to ourselves by either admitting we let the occasion get to us or the player was better/outplayed us.
I also witnessed players super confident who told me they will win the tournament or get to the final. Is this a good attitude? It depends, on this occasion neither player got past the quarter final but that does not mean it was incorrect. If they truly believed the event was theirs, then its a good thing to have a positive mind set. I believe we are all different so we should find what suits us best and don't let others tell you otherwise. This means you must learn what makes you preform and utilise it to the best of your ability.
Unlike some sports table tennis has two outcomes a loser and a winner, its about how we perceive the loss or win that builds our table tennis character. The aim of this blog is to make you think about why you lost and what are the effects of losing.
On most occasions when we lose we blame everything but ourselves and on the odd occasion when we lose we come off saying" I played really well".
So what should we do to gain optimum benefit from a lose:
1. I was always taught that the real magic happens when you lose, if your willing to learn from it. What does that mean? When we lose we often reflect on why we lost, assess the issues and try to implement an action plan against our poor performance. So when you lose try to think why you lost, please don't blame an edge or a net, that went against you (that is an uncontrollable. When we win we are happy and often forget to reflect, hampering our progress, so the tip here is try to reflect on the match rather than just a lose or win.
2. We are too harsh on ourselves, losing is a part of the game (hate losing) but accept that it will happen.
3. Are you a true winner? I often test my players for example I may provide extra physicals for the 'winners' yes the winners!! This shows me who really wants to win and who doesn't mind losing. The players who fight to win regardless of the physicals have the right attitude, they are willing to sacrifice to gain a win. That's the key, you must sacrifice and be willing to take many hits and many loses on your pathway to becoming a true winner.
"Winners never quit and quitters never win"